3 ways to back a toddler down from an explosion

No doubt you've suffered the wrath of a toddler meltdown. Hopefully you weren't on an airplane, stuck in the seat next to the raging child, or worse yet, the parent of the tiny offender.

Once a meltdown has begun it is nigh impossible to talk your child down (if they can even hear your voice our focus on what your saying), but there are a few things that may snuff out the fire before it grows wild.

1. Physical contact- toddlers naturally respond to appropriate physical contact. They are hands on learners and rely heavily on their sense of touch at this stage.  While it's hard for them to redirect their thoughts from what they want to your requests, putting your arm gently around them, or calmly putting your hands on their arms helps to draw attention to your words. Especially with kids who seem unable to hear anything but yelling, a simple hand on their shoulder makes all the difference.

2. Mimic the desired behavior.  The quickest way to get a toddler into a shouting match is to shout at them.  Likewise if you want your toddler to keep their voice down, whisper while talking to them.

3.  Respect their need for validation- no one likes to be shut down, especially if they weren't understood in the first place.  Toddlers are no exception.  Find out what they want, and then ask them why it is important to them.  Repeat it back, and ask if that  is correct.  When they feel understood, they're much more likely to try to understand your reasoning.

For today trying these simple suggestions may help, but if not, check out some of our other articles for inspiration.  Every child is unique and will need your creativity to mix and match techniques for you.